The girlfriend (back then) always says she doesn’t need Valentine’s Day flowers and gifts.
So I did some trial and error by getting some of her favourite cookies. The real reason: flowers that year was extremely expensive ($90-150 for a small bouquet) and I didn’t see the value of it.
We will celebrate Valentine’s Day up to a week before the actual day, 14th February. This has been negotiated and primed for her to understand that we have to fight for seats and it is too commercialised everywhere. It will hurt the pocket and we actually don’t get to truly celebrate the day itself.
So when 12am hit on Valentine’s Day, I presented the cookie. She looked happy but that was it. I felt that she appreciated the gesture but it wasn’t enough.
What??? What did I miss?
(I talked about this in the other post regarding figuring out her speech and what are her likes and dislikes.)
The following days went on as normal but she wasn’t as lively. In fact, there was a slight dip in her mood. So I went into deep thought and quickly diagnosed the problem. I bought a bouquet after 14 Feb (cheap) and gave it to her.
Guess what? She looked like a 10% low battery fast-charged to 90% full! Her expression was night and day. That was quite a sight to behold.
What I have learned from my experience is that most women do understand Valentine’s Day flowers are damn f**king expensive and they won’t want to demand for flowers on the day itself. They don’t want to seem like an unreasonable GF or wife, so you won’t get to hear them say it outright.
You will have to figure it out. And I’m here to help you:
GamePlay
The flowers have something which we guys do not understand, this is a necessary gesture.
Flowers magical properties is to stabilize female emotions.
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- If your partner loves comparing with her peers – Let her know and get her flowers a week before 14 Feb. That’s 7 Feb.
- If your partner knows what she wants during Valentine’s Day – Get what she wants and add a small gift. Best if you can negotiate an earlier date to celebrate.
- Your partner is simple – follow number 1
- If your partner says no to flowers – CB la, follow number 1 and buy a small one.
- Let’s say you don’t know anything about your partner – Follow number 2 and learn from the one-time lesson (Pay $60 – $150 school fees, The lesson is worth it.)
- If she loves surprises! – Then pay the School Fees and learn. High risk but you’ll learn.
The complexity of Valentine’s Day made simple is, to do what you need to do anyway.
You might be against the rationality of Valentine’s Day Flower. But remember, celebrating Valentine’s Day is to please her and score.
Don’t play the zero-sum game during Valentine’s day. Be attentive towards her and you will do well.
Understand Valentine’s Day Flower Trick
Females are very simple when you understand what is to be expected.
The rule of engagement for Valentine’s Day are:
- She needs to keep up to status quo or at least don’t fall too far behind her pack of peers.
- Social Media is very cruel. If she loves posting on Social Media, do your part at least to minimally fulfill her wish on this Day (The next big one is Birthday)
- Do not fight over petty issues, all she wants for her Valentine’s Day is for you to pamper her.
- Should there be any pressing issues that you cannot let go and you got to confront her. Let the issue go (Unless she’s cheating on you then let her go.)
- She sees every effort as long as you don’t make insensitive remarks or being inattentive to what she says.
- Usually, partners are willing to convey their desires more honestly.
Men’s Dilemma
What if she doesn’t like my plan or the choice of flowers?
There’s actually not much you can do unless you are super rich and have a PA to help you settle with all the arrangements. Otherwise work within your means.
My advice to you is: Do your best you can and don’t take it personally.
Most importantly,
This is one of the hardest things due to your limited time, effort and cash.
Give a pat to yourself for getting all the necessary things done on this day.
Take it as a learning experience. And do better when you get the chance. You don’t have to do flowers only through Valentine’s Day you know? You can do flowers trick every 2-3 times a year. So that you can spread your investment where she needs it most.
Now go forth and let your flower do the trick! (And follow through with the rules of engagement)